Saturday, January 24, 2009

Got PMS!

I am suffering from premenstrual syndromes (PMS) now and I feel like throwing up! My intermittent abdominal pain is like killing me. When it attacks, it attacks so bad that all I wanted to do is to just lie on bed on my abdomen. I just hope my mens will come soon so all these am feeling will do away too!

My Friend

My Friend

My Friend when I think of you.
I think of all that we've been through.
All the times we argue and fight,
I know deep inside that it isn't right.
I, then feel bad and alot of pain.
It feels like I've fallen from the sky like the rain.
I love you dear friend with all of my heart.
But now that you're gone I've fallen apart.
I'm getting better as the days go by.
I wish sometimes this was all a big lie.
I pray to you every night.
It's like you're my fire, a burning light.
My dear friend, I miss you alot.
I still wonder why you were put in that spot.
I know you're in a place much better than here.
Watching and helping me with all of my fear.
Our friendship my dear friend,
we will have to the end.
Friends til the end is what we will be.
Someday we'll be together,
together you and me.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Dealing With the Fear of Commitment

Found this article worth reading that's why I reposted it here. Thanks to the author Mr. Scott Haltzman

By Scott Haltzman, Ph.D. for
Updated: Nov 11, 2008
happy dating couple
Why do I feel that I'm more committed to this relationship than she is? Any thoughts on dealing with emotional distancing? She has some abuse issues from her past that has made her emotionally distant. Can you give me any strategies for this? We both want this marriage to work, but I know it takes two to be on the same page. I am afraid that I am more gung-ho and committed to this than she.
I fondly recall my days as a child, eagerly awaiting the weekly TV appearance of Lee Majors as, "The Six Million Dollar Man." If your memory goes back to these halcyon days, you'll recall that the bionic man was "better, faster, stronger." In my heart of hearts, I knew I'd never be as good, fast or strong as the fictional Steve Austin. But my mother assured me that I was smart. Take that, Majors -- even if you did get to marry Farrah Fawcett.

Commitment Factor #1: Inborn Traits
"The Six Million Dollar Man" wasn't real, but the theme of the show serves as a reminder that we are not all equally endowed with the same qualities. Commitment, like smarts, strength and speed, is a human quality that is not the same in all individuals.

Being able to commit yourself to one person is an outgrowth of many personality traits and lifelong experiences. For instance, some individuals are born with high risk taking traits, and some with more reticence. Some individuals are more outgoing by human nature and some are shy. The more withdrawn personalities often have difficulties establishing close bonds with people, while those with the ability to be open and optimistic toward new experiences find it easier to trust others.

Commitment Factor #2: Life Experiences
Besides inborn personality traits, early life experiences also affect a person's level of commitment. People who grow up in stable households, and who have a secure neighborhood and stable friends, are more able to see commitment to one person as a tangible life choice. Adults who are exposed to early childhood trauma, such as abuse, may have problems feeling safe with others throughout their lives. As a child, of course, we don't have much of a choice about the world that surrounds us, but what happens to us in childhood does have an impact on the capacity to trust and be trusted.
The ability to commit is also based on life events in adulthood. People who have promised their heart to one person, and later find that person has been unfaithful or abusive, will often have a harder time forming a solid bond to their next partner. Also, people tend to shy from committing to partners with a bad track record themselves; if you've been married six times before, or have been involved in past or current substance abuse, spousal abuse or infidelity, than it's reasonable for your mate to hold back on the expectation of a lifetime of mutual love.

Commitment Factor #3: A Series of Processes
Commitment, though, is not a dyed-in-the-wool trait; people's ability to commit depends on many factors besides inborn traits and early life experiences. Commitment is a process. Every suitor knows or can imagine the panic of having a person at the end of a first luncheon date say, "I want to spend the rest of my life with you!" It wouldn't be right to feel a lifetime commitment to one person after just one date. If two individuals are involved in an emotional relationship, where each has consistently demonstrated trust and the ability to be trusted over time, then it's natural for commitment to grow. It may take longer for people who are less naturally inclined toward commitment or who have had bad experiences before. It's simply not realistic to expect attachment to grow at the same rate for each partner. That may be why you're feeling more committed to the relationship than your partner -- you and your mate simply haven't arrived at the same place at the same time.

Commitment Questions
You can take the initiative in trying to understand why your mate is lagging behind in commitment by asking some open-ended questions. Find a quiet time to sit and try to understand the factors that contribute to your mate's commitment-shyness. Here are five dating questions to ask:
1. What kind of child were you? Was it easy to form attachments to other people?
2. What are your early experiences with developing trust? As a child, was your trust ever betrayed?
3. Was there a time when you felt committed to a person, and you were hurt because you put your heart on the line?
4. Are there things that I am doing in the relationship that make it hard to put your trust in me?
5. Do you envision a time when you are able to trust me more, and make the kind of commitment that will allow me to trust that we will be together for a lifetime?
As you listen to your mate discuss these issues, try not to judge and don't try to cajole into firming up his or her commitment. The best way to help trust grow over time is to be a concerned listener and a dependable friend. Then, your mate's commitment will grow better, faster and stronger.

"Tayong Dalawa" Sets A Good Start On TV

The soap "Tayong Dalawa" on ABS-CBN's Primetime sets an impressive start as it goes on air last Monday, January 19, 2009. I have personally watched it and I bet it would be among the most sought after TV soap ever on Philippine TV.

To give light to what I am writing about, here's the article I got from written by Edgar O. Ortiz, an entertainment editor:

“Tayong Dalawa” off to an impressive start

“Tayong Dalawa” got an impressive 39% national rating and 35% Metro rating on opening broadcast last Monday, Jan.19, as against “Gagambino” which only did a measly 21% national rating. “I Love Betty La Fea” which started broadcasting after the early evening news did 36% as against “Luna Mystika” at 26.2% Continuing the 30% advantage of major shows as against GMA shows, this gave ABS-CBN a ratings of 16.9% or total national audience share of 48% as against GMA’s ratings 12.6% and a 36% share.

TNS national ratings for Jan 19, Monday, were as follows: “Boy and Kris,” 8.4% vs. “Sis,” 5.8%; “Game KNB?,” 14.6% vs. “Rosalinda,” 9.9%; “Wowowee,” 21.4% vs.”Eat Bulaga,” 15.5%; “Parekoy,” 16.7% vs. “Daisy Siete,” 14.4%; “Pieta,” 17.1% vs. “Saan Darating Ang Umaga,” 12.8%, “La Traicion,” 13.7%; “Zoid Genesis,” 9.3% vs. “Be Strong Geum Soon,” 8.5%; “Mr. Bean Live,” 10.3% vs. “Wanted Perfect Family,” 8.4%; Mischievous Princess,” 12.4% vs. “Love at the Corner,” 10.5%; “Deal or No Deal,” 20.6% vs. Family Feud,” 17.9%; “TV Patrol,” 31% vs. “24 Oras,” 24.8%; “I Love Betty La Fea,” 36% vs. “Luna Mystika,” 26.2%; “Tayong Dalawa,” 39% vs. “Gagambino,” 21%; “Eva Fonda,” 25.9% vs. “LaLola,” 20.1%; “Pinoy Fear Factor,” 16.2% vs. “Money War,” 17.4%; “Ripleys,” 11.1% vs. “Bandila,” 6.9%. “Saksi,” 6%.

GMA is panicking with the ABS-CBN’s impressive performance in national ratings. Where before it could claim to be number one because of its higher ratings in Mega Manila, now it cannot do this because national ratings are now available. It has intensified publication of its Mega Manila ratings and had announced show introductions in the coming months.

A Supposedly Good Friend

She used to be someone I knew well a decade ago but she wasn't a friend then. We crossed paths again after college and that's how I got to know her and gradually became a friend. We shared views and sometimes do clash but having built friendship with her has been a blessing. Years after, I ventured another career and we separated ways. For many years, I and my other close friends noticed that she's no longer available for us. We understand how busy her life is but can't grasp the thought why she can't even spare at least a little time for us.

It's her birthday today. I greeted her. I extended how much we wanted to see her. She replied, she's just busy and will make "bawi". Such stuff made me realized to write something about her.

All Brand-New Blog

I personally have lots of stuffs to share. Too bad I just can't name them in an instant. Hence, the word "stuffs" on its title. It may be unspecified, miscellaneous, or could be senseless, but I tell you it would be all be worth sharing.

Welcome to my blog site!
Welcome to "Sharing Stuffs"!
Sharing Stuffs now available online! :)